Family issues are a combination of the individual member issues of the family. Each member brings with them their own package of issues. When we look at families, we first sort out who brings in what issue. This is done by looking at the family of origin and the existing patterns. We are initially attracted to a partner because we recognize similar traits in each other; some are positive and some are negative traits. Sorting out these traits creates a healthy breathing space and disentangles each individual. Then we return the unwanted patterns back into the ancestral line.