What kind of a family do we want?
A supportive, understanding partner with similar goals, boundaries and expectations. Fun and laughter, playing and growing together, shared experiences, having a peaceful and harmonious household, having a routine that works with as little interruption as possible.
How is our family life?
Craziness, chaos, the kids are crying, the partner screaming, we are late getting out the door. Everyday a new issue seems to be surfacing. The school calls for meetings, the kids get sick almost every month. Homework is getting more difficult to get done. TV has become the only time when there is some peace in the house, except when it comes to choosing the program and fighting over the remote. The family unit seems to be drifting further and further apart with arguments over parenting styles and getting everyone’s needs met.
How do we get cooperation?
Family dynamics grow over time and often settle into unwanted standards that need careful examinations – – like peeling back the layers of an onion. Where did it all start? Even with good intentions we slip into modes that are not sustainable and healthy for a family. How do we turn these good intentions into positive actions and outcomes? Are you still on track with what the original intentions were and if your method did not bring the result you wanted did you try something else? Often our own upbringing does not help either, because sub-standard parenting repeats itself. Looking at these patterns brings clarity and opens the mind to new and successful solutions. Every member of a family wants to have fun and do the right thing, we just go about it in different ways. Synergy, common goals and cooperation become the aim of the process.